In real life, arranged marriages can work well. In church planting, not so well. Here’s what I mean.
We have neighbors who are from India, and they’re in an arranged marriage which is doing quite well. The story is interesting. He was born in America, so he’s a natural US citizen. When he was getting to the wife-hunting stage his mother contacted his uncle in Mombai, who put ads in the newspaper for women of specific education and background. Then mom went to India and interviewed these girls, narrowing the list to five. Our neighbor then went and met with them to conduct his own interview of sorts. Within a day he and his prospective wife made the decision that they would go for it, and they were married about a week later.
It sounds a little goofy to our culture, but it apparently works. They at least had the advantage of having loving people around them (in the is case, his mom and uncle) to do some preliminary screening.
In church planting, arranged marriages don’t work so well.
Read more here: Beware of Arranged Marriages – ChurchPlanting.com