(This is Part 1 in a series on specifically good questions to use in life and coaching.)
Most of us know that the art of coaching isn’t as much about supplying answers as it is asking questions. As such, I do my best to pay attention when I hear good questions, and I try to put them in the parking lot where I can use them when the situation presents. So I got to thinking of a few questions which can really open doors–whether in a coaching moment, or just as conversation starters in general. Here’s the first installment of an ongoing series.
A Leave Behind Season
I was golfing last week with a guy who had recently lost a lot of weight by going on the Paleo diet. Lots of meat, some veggies, and some fruit. And a late-night bowl of Haagen Dazs ice cream. (Just kidding: no dairy!) As we grew in conversation and friendship he, of course, told me more about his life. When I learned a few more things about him I started to see a pattern for this season he’s in, so I told him what I saw. “It seems like you’re in a real ‘leave behind’ season. You’re not just leaving behind excessive weight, you’re leaving behind a lot of things. If I were you I’d be asking God what that’s all about.” Kind of a fun time; at least an “Aha!” which could lead to a breakthrough moment for my new friend.
Ask This Question
So the question to ask is, “What are you leaving behind these days?” They may need some clarification or some examples–perhaps from your own life. You’ll be surprised at how people like to think about this and report what they’re thinking.
And what if they’re stuck with no response–or if you want to elongate the conversation into something slightly more revelatory? Ask, “What would you like to leave behind these days?” You’ll see how this gets people to open their souls and lean into a more favorable future. If nothing else, you’ll have more things to pray about.