Here’s a good question you can use in a coaching relationship, a friendship, or a small group of people: “What’s God teaching you these days?”
I learned this question years ago from Bob Logan, and I’ve woven it into various contexts to this very day. Obviously this has merit in a faith-based relationship, but I’m challenging myself to use this “across the aisle” before long to see what conversation it generates with those who haven’t settled the God issue.
There are a few things about this question which make it a winner:
1. It brings perspective for the recipients. When someone reminds me that God is there and He is sovereign, I can more easily shift to a place of faith and perspective. This question recalls the teaching of Jesus who said, “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows” (Luke 12:6-7).
2. Accordingly, people almost always answer meaningfully, without hesitation. Sometimes they say, “Good question!” first, but for the most part it’s an easy on-ramp that sets the mood for the entire conversation.
3. It takes pressure off of me. As a coach, facilitator, or friend, I have a responsibility to the recipient, but not for the recipient. Asking, “What is God teaching you these days?” is a reminder to me that I’m not in charge, either.
I’m serious that I’m planning to use this question even with people I don’t know. Maybe it will be the right question at the right time, or maybe it’ll bring offense. It should be fun, and I don’t have anything to lose, especially since the hairs on my head are numbered, too.