(This is Part 4 in the “Selfie” series. Read part 3 here.)
I had a self-paralysis moment about a week ago when I received a call and saw who it was that was calling! Ever happen to you? I instantly knew this would be a less-than-pleasant conversation. And it turned out to be just that. When I got off the phone I went into a downward spiral. In this continuation of “Selfie”, let’s take a quick look at how sometimes we’re our own worst enemies.
A Google search of “Self-Paralysis” turns up…very little, unless you’re looking for groovy-cool ways to smoke hallucinogens. But I know what I mean. It’s when the pressures of life come out of nowhere and bring us to a screeching halt. We become frozen, almost unable to move, perhaps nearly catatonic.
When self-paralysis happens, you can actually do quite a bit about it if you know yourself fairly well. In GiANT we say, “Know Yourself to Lead Yourself”. If you know your tendencies, you can win over self-paralysis.
How to Fight Against the Frozen
Take this to the bank:
If you are among the 50% who are Extroverted (you give and receive energy from the outside world of people and ideas) you will turn inward under extreme pressure. You will notice a tendency to clam up, getting stuck inside your head. Others will see you turn inward, zombie-like. (Google “zombie-like”.)
If you are among the 50% who are Introverted (you find your energy inside of yourself, away from the outside world of people and ideas) you will turn outward under extreme pressure. You will notice a tendency to fidget, pace, and say things in forceful, even deprecating ways. “Where did that come from? How did quiet me go postal?”
As I said, if you know your self-paralysis tendency, you can do something about it. In simple terms, extroverts need to do stuff outside of their heads; listen to inspiring music or thoughts, sing, talk it out with others, journal, get outside. And introverts need to find safe places to re-gather their thoughts and order their private world.
You have your unique wiring, and I can help you figure out more about you, but for now, this sort of simple understanding and intentional push to get to your better place actually does get you back on a healthy pathway. It may take a day or two or three, but it will work. Anyway, you know how to get a hold of me: email@example.com. And if I see you calling I’ll try not to freeze up.