(This is part 7 of the “Selfie” series. Read part 6 here.)
Last time I wrote about the frame from which we talk to ourselves actually can enhance our well-being. Research shows that if we speak to ourselves in the second person (“You”, or even by our name, “Edna”) there’s a significant payoff as opposed to the more common first person, “I”.) Right now, I’m thinking of a friend who speaks to herself out loud, “Nice job, Honey! You’re doing great!”
I’m Talking to “You”
Here’s Part B. I mentioned this research finding to my son, a writer, who added this caveat. He said it works with journaling, too. Instead of writing, “I…” write, “You…” He read that somewhere. And if I know him as well as I think I do, I’m guessing he found it on Reddit.
So, I did my own Google search (“Reddit second person journaling”), and I think I found it. Dig this:
A New Approach
This isn’t research, per se, but it’s anecdotal, and in my opinion, it’s motivational. It seems more personal, less ethereal, and it comes with an air of authority and perspective that can be missing in the first person. If we can improve our self-talk, even on paper, let’s give it a shot.
So, I’m going to try journaling in the second person.
I mean, “You’re going to try it.”