(This is Part 5 in The Liberating Leader at Work series. You can read Part 4 here.)
Today I’ll teach you a reliable way to begin recovery from a moment of deep or extreme stress–when something around you, perhaps at work, has brought you to the boiling point. Last time I described the scenario as it relates to Introverts and Extroverts. Under extreme stress Introverts go atypically outside of themselves. Verbal explosions or physical expressions of fidgeting or pacing–a true “boiling point”. But Extroverts go inward under extreme stress. They can look vacuous, staring aimlessly, and they can appear to have stopped breathing. Their boiling point has shut them down.
- So the first point is to watch yourself as it relates to your Introversion and Extroversion. If you see yourself suddenly going outside of your preference you’ll have a hint that you’re under extreme stress.
- But the second point is that if you’re intentional, you can recover more quickly than you’re used to if you force yourself to get back to your place of preference.
Really, it’s that simple. When hitting the boiling point, Introverts need to find some alone space to recalibrate their reality. Get away from the situation, close the door, turn off the devices. Get away from people, if even for a little while. If you will do that, your energy will rise, you will think more clearly, have more hope, and feel more healthy.
And Extroverts, who go introverted under extreme stress, need to somehow get outside of their heads. How? Well, you figure it out. I know that for myself that can involve walking outside, listening to inspiring music or podcasts, or moving myself out of my home office to a coffee shop where there’s enough noise and activity to help get me unstuck from my head. If you will do that, your energy will rise, you will think more clearly, have more hope, and feel more healthy.
So, give it a shot. Fight to get back to your place of preference and you will see an almost immediate rise in clarity and energy. Boiling points will happen, but they don’t have to win the day.