(This is Part 10 of The Coach in Your Head series. Read Part 9 here)
There’s a lot going on inside your head, and this blog series has been dedicated to helping you (via the coach in your head) crowd out what is unhelpful–and engage with what is. I’ve often referenced that the National Aeronautics and Space Administration says there’s at least 500,000 pieces of “space debris” out there. The leftover pieces of man-made missions, and about 21,000 of those pieces are soft-ball size or greater. So, they track them with computer gizmos.
Space debris can hamper a mission.
And so it is with your mind. Too much stuff to think about and to avoid. But the coach in your head is your ally–it can help you weed out what should and shouldn’t be tracked. I conclude this series with a short reference to the interplay between courage and confidence. If you can consistently live on the side of stepping into a favorable future, you can push away the unnecessary debris and clear your pathway to winning.
- Confidence: calibrating the likelihood of success.
- Courage: calibrating the cost of not trying versus the cost of failing.
Each challenge in life–from overcoming a pressing crisis to leaving behind a toxic situation to finding greater fulfillment–should be met with confidence and courage.
How courage and confidence team up in your life
Confidence takes into account my skills, career path, relationships, and the understanding that other people like me have done it. It is based on wisdom. It doesn’t mean haphazard ill-advised certainty, but it does mean I have reasonably calculated that I have what it takes to get there. (“I probably won’t become an astronaut, but I might become a pretty good author.”)
When my confidence is reasonably certain, the coach in my head needs to call upon courage. What happens if I do nothing? If the doing nothing pathway is more painful than having at least given it a shot, I’ll be motivated to throw whatever minor cautions there are to the wind and go for it. “What do I have to lose?” I have a lot to lose if I do nothing.
When confidence aligns with courage, breakthrough is around the corner. Your internal voice–the coach in your head–will keep you moving ahead.