(This is Part 9 of The Coach in Your Head series. Read Part 8 here. )
If you’ve read my post on your customized “natural” way to stay healthy, here’s your next step: Reward yourself. If you haven’t read that blog, then do so now, and you’ll see what I mean.
Your particular personality has a particular way to be at its best.
All of us know what it’s like to endure. Some of us have become experts at it, and some of us have become habitually addicted to endurance. Enduring is important, and it’ probably one of the highest human virtues, but if all we do is endure, we’ll pay a price. When the essence of who we are is depleted, the downward spiral is underway, and we become incapacitated. Here’s a text: “Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” (Luke 5:15-16).
So, I guess it’s OK to take care of yourself.
In the work we do with Giant Worldwide, we make a strong effort to help leaders understand what they are like at their best–and what happens to them under extreme pressure–and how to refresh. We have code language and speak of each person’s “Pilot” (their sweet spot–the personality driver that brings you where you want to go) and we speak of each person’s “Baby” (what happens internally and externally when pressure becomes unbearable.) And then we say this: UNDER EXTREME PRESSURE IGNORE THE BABY AND FEED THE PILOT.
If you’re addicted to endurance, the coach in your head needs to remind you to feed the pilot. We can break this down very acutely, and if you want my help, just let me know (Email: firstname.lastname@example.org). But right now, be a student of yourself. What brings you refreshment? What makes you alive? What centers you? The answer to feeding the Pilot is different for each person. But if you crack that code you’ll have discovered some secret sauce. Believe me.
Another link you may find helpful is this course “Discover your true personality” by Steve Cockram