(This is Part 2 of the “There’s a ME in Team” series. Read Part 1 here.)
You Make a Difference
Everyone knows what it’s like to be in a group of people when just one person made the difference. It might have been for the negative: they had a terrible attitude or work ethic or lack of self-awareness, and it brought the entire team down. Or it may have been for the positive: they brought unusual energy or talent or humility or encouragement, and everything got better.
It’s hard to calculate the ripple effect of just one person. It’s hard to calculate the ripple effect of me.
Last time we looked at our circles of influence, and I commented that there’s a lot to unpack in this simple tool. So here are two more observations.
Observation #1: The arrow goes outward, not inward. We can succeed in the outward circles, for a while, without succeeding on the inside, where the stakes are higher. Everyone knows of someone who has “succeeded” and become a wreck at the same time. But if we understand the trajectory of the arrow, we’ll give primary attention to the center, where we reside. If we get it right with ourselves, all of our other circles have a chance to win.
Observation #2: The further we go out from ourselves, the less control we have. Take a look. You have less control over your family, even less control over your team, organization, and community. Not long ago a person was talking to me about what it would take to have a healthy family culture. Given the uncertainties and moving pieces, I said, “I can’t guarantee a healthy family if I can’t guarantee a healthy you. Let’s start with you.”
Don’t discount your ripple effect. There’s a Me in Team, and if you can get the center right, you can get the rest right, too.