(This is part 10 in the “There’s a Me in Team” series. Read part 9 here.)
What’s a way to get an accurate read on your leadership and how others are responding to it? Have them scatterplot you on the Support Challenge Matrix.
The Ripple Effect
In this series I’ve been contending that most organizations never reach their maximum because their number one team never reaches its maximum. (Organizations never go beyond their number one team.) And I’ve been contending that most “number one teams” don’t reach their maximum because the leaders of those teams don’t reach their maximum. The ripple effect.
You can’t be at your best if you don’t have accurate information, and that goes for your leadership in your family, with friends, with your team, your organization, and beyond. Every leader knows what it’s like to have something sneak up on them as it relates to those they lead. Great leaders work toward greater self-awareness.
Trust Me. It Works.
Scatterplotting works. (Using visuals is part of why what we do in GiANT Worldwide works powerfully.) It will help detoxify your human interaction by pointing others toward, in this instance, the Support Challenge Matrix and ask them a simple question. “In all honesty, how do I come across to you in most instances? Liberator, Dominator, Abdicator, or Protector? Put a dot where you see me. Take your time. We can meet tomorrow or next week on this.”
Depending on how you’ve historically been received, some may be suspicious. “Seriously, I’m wanting to know how I come across. I can’t improve if I don’t have honest information.” (If they put their dot just over the line, they might be afraid of speaking the truth.)
Two years ago I confided to a fellow GiANT Senior Associate that I felt like I had been Dominating a family member. She said, “Sit down with the Support Challenge Matrix, explain it to them and ask them.” So I did. The family member answered on the spot, pointing to the quadrants and said, “No, you’re not a Dominator. If anything, you’re a Protector”. We had a good, honest conversation over that. I reported that to my colleague, who simply said, “There. It’s settled. You haven’t been dominating. You’ve been protecting. So you can work on that.”
We can’t succeed without accurate information, so let’s invite the conversation. We’ll learn some things and be respected for it.